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Sunday, April 8th, 2007
2:06 pm
NYC: TriState Poly Discussion Group meeting today

The TriState Poly Discussion Group will have a meeting today between 5:00 pm - 7:00 pm at New York Spaces, 131 West 72nd Street between Broadway and Columbus (look for the red door, 212-799-5433).

Potluck snacks or beverages are welcome.
Friday, October 20th, 2006
3:51 pm
Hi all, next weekend I will be going to.....

Is anyone else planning to go? Maybe we can meet and have lunch. I already ordered my Amtrak tickets (going through Boston) but could cancel them If I can get a ride there and/or back.

BTW: I live in Queens, NYC but could meet in Manhattan.

Hope to see many of you there!
Tuesday, September 5th, 2006
9:21 pm
TriState Poly Discussion Group September meeting this Sunday
Hi all,

For all of you who are NOT on the NYC-POLY Yahoo group, I will be the guest facilitator for the TriState Poly Discussion Group September meeting. It will be the first time that I will running this meeting.

So if you are poly (or want to find out about poly) and aren't going to the Loving More conference, and in the NYC area PLEASE come to the meeting and help make my first one a good one ;)

It's this Sunday September 10, 2006 4:00 pm - 7:00 pm. It is followed by an Informal dinner afterwards at a nearby restaurant for the hungry among us.

The meeting is locate at:
New York Spaces, 131 West 72nd Street (between Broadway and Columbus)
Look for the red door
Their Phone number is 212-799-5433.

4:00 Newcomers Welcome and Social Time
4:30 - 7:00 Discussion meeting
BTW Potluck snacks or beverages are welcome!
Monday, April 10th, 2006
11:30 pm
Posting for my friends at the "Bi Writers Association"
Call For Submissions “BEST BI SHORT STORIES”

Sending this along just in case it should find some interest here . . . if it's not for you, pass on by ~~ Thanks

*** Revised to contain Answers to Most Common Questions ***

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Wednesday, October 19th, 2005
3:24 pm
Saturday, September 3rd, 2005
9:40 am
Katrina in-kind donations
Crossposted a bit, but hopefully not obnoxiously.

The bar d.b.a, in the East Village, has collection boxes set up for "in-kind donations" -- i.e., food, clothing, toiletries and so on. [D.b.a. has a "sister bar" in New Orleans, or at least they DID until last weekend.] I was there on Friday afternoon and confirmed this.

I know most of the nonprofits are saying that they'd prefer it if people donated money, or gave blood, or volunteered; but this is another alternative for those who might not have the cash to spare this week, for example. [And then there are those of us who have sex with men, who've had sex with men, anytime after 1977; the Red Cross doesn't want our feelthy blood no matter how much latex we use...]

Anyhow, you might want to call d.b.a. before you bring over anything heavy, just to make sure this collection is still going on.
They're at 41 First Avenue (2nd/3rd Street), and their # is 212.475.5097.
Wednesday, August 31st, 2005
6:34 pm
Greetings and Introduction
Greetings and salutations all,

Figured I'd introduce myself somewhat. My name is Mike (also called Corin or Prime) and while I have been polyamorous in theory for several years now,(I am 24) I have only recently decided to attempt online and IRL to try and get to know others in this community. This is part of a general decision to end my 'hermatage' stage. :P I am not sure what else I should or should not say here, so please feel free to ask my any questions.

Tuesday, July 5th, 2005
11:07 pm
The Best of Cinekink this Saturday Night in NYC.
A special screening of hot favorites culled from the very best of CineKink, "the really alternative film festival."

Saturday, July 9th - 9:30 pm

Anthology Film Archives
32 Second Avenue (@ 2nd Street), NYC

$8/door only

Short Film ProgramCollapse )
Monday, May 30th, 2005
9:47 pm
When the Kink/Poly World Conflicts with the Vanilla World.
Lisa and I worked on the guest list for the wedding today. It really sucks trying to balance 105 guests while taking into account relatives you have to invite but probably wont come, so it ends up being a lot of shifting from "A" list to "B" list, and waiting until people's RSVP's come back.

Another interesting scenario is whether or not to invite "partners". It's hard enough when traditional rules wavered on inviting non-married couples. (It's ok if they've dated for a year or are living together, but not ok if they just started fucking).

But, it gets really weird when we have to include our friends from the S/m and Poly world. ("Ok... Person "X" is no longer Person "Y"'s slave, but "X" is still the boyfriend of person "Z"; meanwhile "Z" is collared to "W", who's now having sex with "Y", but "Y" hates "V" and "V" is part of triad relationship of "TUV".)

Sounds like a Logic Problem from Hell.

I cant wait until we get to the seating charts... *sigh*
Friday, April 1st, 2005
12:11 pm
To Swing or not to Swing
One of the best sex writers on the planet, Dan Savage, as a great letter/answer regarding a married couple who are squabbling about getting into the Swing lifestyle.
My husband of three years is really pressuring me to swing. He is always trying to get me to agree to join a local swingers' club. I made it clear to him before we got married that I would not swing. He made it clear to me that it was his greatest fantasy. I guess he thought I would magically change my mind. Dan, why can't he love me enough to be satisfied with only me? I don't want to have sex with anyone else. I just can't imagine sex without love! Do wedding vows mean nothing? Am I crazy like my husband insists? He won't see a therapist and I need help!
Monogamous One

You're both crazy, MO. Your husband told you before you married that swinging is his ultimate fantasy; you told your husband before you married that you won't swing. But you married each other anyway and now--surprise!--you're at each other's throats over this swinging issue. Neither of you saw that one coming? You both went into this marriage hoping the other would change and you were both wrong. It's for situations like yours, MO, that divorce lawyers coined the term "irreconcilable differences."
Ann Landers or Dr. Phil would, without doubt, take the side of the monogamous one and castigate the husband as evil and selfish for trying to impose his sick desires on her and the marriage. Savage accurately takes both of them to task for both being selfish in ignoring what each other's sexual differences before getting married.
Thursday, March 17th, 2005
9:23 pm
Some background:Collapse )

I'm thinking of going to the Poly Munch in NY next week, but frankly I'm unsure. While I know I'm going there looking to meet someone I'm not sure I want to set myself up for failure.

Feh, sorry I don't mean to make this a whine, any thoughts or ideas are welcome.

crossposted to polyamory & poly_ny

Current Mood: stressed
Thursday, February 10th, 2005
2:06 pm
Will Smith admits to poly relationship with wife, Jada Pinkett-Smith

If true, this article represents a fantastic and positive image of two celebrities involved in a polyamorous relationship built on open & honest communication along with trust.
Tuesday, December 21st, 2004
9:55 pm
New & Introduction
Hey all.

My name is Mallory. I am 19 years old. I am bisexual and polyamorous. I live in Yonkers, NY (just north of the city). I am Asatru.

My interests are listening to music, dancing, singing, writing, reading, researching, spending time with friends, meeting new people, traveling, going out new places, and much more.

My kinks are: candle wax, handcuffs, boots, leather, vinyl. I've dabbled in B&D and S&M. I'd like to explore both a little more.

I'm looking for either a male or female. Although I find myself attracted to more females than males lately. I'd prefer them to be between ages 19-40. I seemingly *usually* can't deal with people my own age. I'd like somebody who lives fairly close to me. I don't mind long distance, but would rather not.

I'm just looking for somebody who I can talk to and have fun with. Somebody who has morals and is a overall good person. Somebody who likes to go out and party, but also enjoys staying home and relaxing.

I'd like to eventually have a primary.

There is more information about me on my user info here on LJ. Feel free to friend me and/or e-mail me.

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Current Mood: content
Monday, August 2nd, 2004
9:12 am
I could use some quick advice: What's the best way to get to Newark airport from Manhattan? It's one of those things where I would rather go cheaper when going there and expensive is okay coming back--but I don't want to kill myself for cheap either.
Wednesday, June 9th, 2004
12:18 am
Pride in the name of love
I was wondering if there would be a poly contingent in the Pride Parade in NY a few weeks from now.

Thanks in advance for the info.

Current Mood: curious
Monday, April 12th, 2004
2:28 pm
An Honest Inquiry from a Single (X-posted)
Bear with me, please, as I explain a little of the background here...

I am a single male in NYC, in my mid-30s. I have, for most of my life, been involved in monogamous relationships and monogamous dating situations. I was, for several months, what you might have very charitably called a "secondary" about ten years ago, but since Poly is usually based on honesty and openness, and this relationship ultimately turned out to be anything but, I don't really think it "counts."

I have several friends who are Poly, though in all cases there is one primary couple that is legally married. So I'm somewhat familiar with the lifestyle and its principles. I'm not absolutely sure that it's a lifestyle I could live myself, but I have great respect for the truths that it recognizes and addresses which monogamy ignores.

My experience with these friends troubles me a little sometimes, though.

On the one hand, I have a good guy friend who is legally married and also has four "girlfriends." While I'm happy for him, I also have to admit that it annoys me that someone who's married already is nevertheless also "drawing away" other women from the available pool for those of us who are still single. I recognize that this isn't necessarily a rational response (especially since he's a thousand miles away), but a desire to settle down can do funny things to you. :-{)} In any event, there is little question that he has a far easier time meeting available women because he's already in a Poly marriage - which strikes me as ironic at best.

On the other, I have a good woman friend who is legally married and basically "plays" a lot; but her husband's rule is that she can play with any women, but she can only play with men who are also in long-term relationships. This makes a certain amount of sense, if you want to avoid the potential for difficult entanglements. And since I'm not exactly desperate, I'm reasonably comfortable with her teasing me that she'd like to sleep with me but can't until I'm in a serious relationship with a woman who doesn't insist on monogamy.

But there's where I start to ask the questions that I'm going to try to ask here.

This friend would like nothing more than for me to meet a beautiful, bisexual Jewish woman, fall in love, get married, and have the four of us "play" in various combinations happily ever after. While I also think that would be very nice, I'm also realistic, and I understand that it's not something you can exactly plan for. (Besides, she's five thousand miles away.)

What I suppose I'm asking is this: It seems to me that most people who are Poly ended up that way because they just happened to meet and fall in love with someone who was already Poly or was predisposed to it. But with the disrespect (or at least lower deference) generally accorded to single men interested in the lifestyle*, if one does want to live that life, how is one supposed to meet such a woman except completely by accident?

I've tried to craft this post as openly and non-whiningly as possible so as to get open, honest responses. I look forward to whatever discussion it might spark. Thanks for letting me ask!

* If I am overstating the "single men" thing, I beg your indulgence, but honestly - what kind of reaction do you really think I'd get showing up to tomorrow night's Polyamory Meetup as a single man?

Current Mood: curious
Friday, April 9th, 2004
5:14 pm
What would an ideal RL NY poly community be like?

Monday, April 5th, 2004
9:15 pm
know a decent realtor in nyc?
i'm lookin to buy a 2br place near manhattan... anyone know a good realtor? i don't want a yes-man, sales god, know-nothing, etc. ...i'm looking for someone smart who can find me what i want and get the best deal for me, at a fair fee.

thanks in advance,
4:38 pm
hi guys.

lemme see...I thought I'd introduce myself. I'm Sasha, a native New Yorker...I'm currently in Vancouver but will be returning to the City 5/1. I've been out-and-out poly for five years now, though I haven't had any flagrant success with it in awhile. I went through poly hell once and came to the conclusion: be choosy, it's worth it.

I'm also a bi girl with the tendency to swoon around bi guys. Much to the annoyance of straight boyfriends.

So, who here has got a complicated network of some sort and can tell us all about it?

Friday, February 20th, 2004
2:39 am
HELLO... Hello... hello....
hehe, a small gatherng, but what the hell, has to start somewhere, and this is definitely necessary, makes it a hell of a lot easier for people like me. Hopefully more will follow
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